Am dating a man going through divorce
I am struggling to get him out of my head and stop crying over the situation. I stayed away from any intimate contact with him for a couple of months but we have a strong mutual attraction and we ended up back in bed. I am aware that there are PLENTY of eligible SINGLE men who have so much to offer..including crazy drama. I have chosen not to ask questions and just give him the space he requested.I am a stong, sensible woman but when it comes to him I can't seem to get it together... If our relationship is meant to be, it will be AFTER HIS DIVORCE. I am at the point where I'm ready to take that chance for ME AND MY HAPPINESS. Hi, I was also dating a man going through a divorce.
And thats when I saw that he really had nothing for me, I was completely insignificant to him.
And when I confronted him last week he didn't even argue the fact, its like he realized to himself "game over" she knows the deal now and its going to be nagging and no more fun for him here on in.
After reading a few comments by others on dating men going through a divorce I feel better about my situation and understand that it may have nothing to do with me and he is the one that needs to work on his healing. Sometimes with enough distance though, tis possible a former rebound he could transition after the single period. Nothing draws a circle around you writes rebound only. But yes, the seperation anxiety is going to kick in for sure and this is the point at which you do cry a lot and do pamper yourself a lot and time will settle his confusion, time will settle your intense pain. Well he did tell me that he does not want to be in a relationship until he feels like he has healed. Who knows what can happen once his heart is in a better place. I really miss my boyfriend and it's tough to think that all the plans for the future will never happen. We have spoken once on the phone and had minimal contact by texting. The fact that he is open to seeing you is a good sign. On that note, you need to move forward as well and do everything you can to take care of yourself and your feelings. When, and if, the time you guys are meant to be with each other, when he is ready and you are as well...you will be. Well I am trying to move past the fact that the relationship is over and he has decided that I should move on to another guy so quickly.
I am feeling less depressed and made it through the entire day without crying. Break-ups in general are stressful, for either party, but a divorce can impact far more than the emotions. Well I wish he would have said that 8 months ago and left out the parts where he said he loved me. We have decided that we will meet for coffee in a few weeks and see how it goes now that we are just friends. His words are shocking to say the least, I assume he has already moved on as well.
Imagine what kind of issues he has in general when it comes to the opposite sex. I am really struggling to stop crying and not feel like a failure. I'm not sure it would be healthy for me to pursue a friendship with him, any thoughts???? You will feel it when you are not emotionally attached to him and his decisions.
I just didn't see it coming, I really thought he was into me. I am a guy and have never been in his situation, but I can even tell that he is pushing you away prematurely because of his own confusions and inabilities to committ right now...because of his divorce.But actions speak louder than words and I guess I knew in my gut that I am really just a distraction for him right now and once I have served my purpose and he has got through his divorce and healed, he will move on and I will be nothing to him.I told him when we met at the weekend that I felt I was nothing more than a distraction and I didn;t think he would ever want more than just a piece of me and that I would get hurt.Divorces cost money, can cause stress when there are items, homes, and children involved. He is likely going through his own personal hell, right now, and he will need all the support he can get. I am really full of anxiety today and trying to hold it together. He now says he was caught up in the safety, lust and nuturing of our early relationship and that he does not love me and should not have said it. I am not interested in any other men and I really did love him, although I realize now that he could not have felt the same and changed his mind only 30 days later.Not just that, but you have to realize that a bond that some people hold in such a high regard was broken. His head and heart are in the middle of a knock down drag out fight and until that ends, he won't be able to move forward properly. I am divorced, 38 and this is the only man I have felt this comfortable with and loved openly. I believe I was his rebound girl after his marriage broke up. It is hard to forget all the things that were said and he clearly does not have the same emotional investment in this that I do. It seems that he is very confused about many things regarding our relationship.He used to a lot nicer to me, at least butter me and sweeten me up with lots of texts and phone calls the week leading up to a meet up and then afterwards its like he would;t have the time of day for me.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating