Girls dating men like their fathers predating ru
A 2008 study from the University of Pécs in Hungary found significant facial correlations between women’s long-term partners and their dads, especially when it came to proportions in the nose and eye area.
Comparing pictures of Brad Pitt with Angelina Jolie’s dad Jon Voight, Norman Cook with Zoë Ball’s dad, Johnny, or Nigella Lawson’s ex Charles Saatchi with her father Nigel, it’s easy to spot this phenomenon at work.
Sarah, 27, didn’t meet her father until she was 16.
‘As a teenager, I always defended the fact that I didn’t have a dad and insisted it didn’t matter.
Personality-wise, my mum can be a bit offish with me, so I think that’s why I never like the girls who are immediately into me.’ In her current relationship, Sophie takes on a role similar to her dad.
‘I’ve just got back from a holiday with my girlfriend and I was the one who did all the map-reading and took charge of where we would eat, just like my dad would.
But it turned out these men were also dishonest and distant, just as her father had been.
How much money they had in their bank accounts was just a distraction.’ Recent studies have shown that a daughter who has a secure, supportive, communicative relationship with her father is the most likely to create and maintain emotionally fulfilling relationships with men in later life.** But even having a great relationship with your dad doesn’t always make dating easy.
Basically, the interactions we have with our fathers as young girls are our earliest opportunity to practise communication with the opposite sex.
‘It’s called pre-sexual programming,’ she explains. ‘As infants, we develop an unconscious schema of what love is, based on the way we are treated by our primary caregivers.
What I find striking is the disparity between the traits and actions that come so naturally to my dad, versus what the generation of guys I’m dating seem completely unable to do, such as arranging a date without ghosting/flaking, planning ahead or just being able to straight-talk about things.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating