Interfaith dating and marriage

She also interviewed dozens of couples as well as religious leaders, mainly from Jewish, Christian and Muslim communities.

She reports that there has been a meteoric rise in interfaith marriage in the United States—42 percent of all marriages now are interfaith marriages, compared to just 15 percent in 1988.

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To help counteract that risk, Reuben provides the reader with a detailed, practical, and thorough way of thinking through each aspect of the relationship.

For example, to help couples articulate the role and importance of religion in their lives he shares a list of ten questions they can answer together.

This is a “bittersweet trend for American religious groups,” she says, since more interfaith contact through marriage tends to increase a person’s appreciation for the other religious group but also weakens ties with the believer’s original religion.

While I am unable to judge the methodological validity of her research, her book convinced me that interfaith marriage may be one of the most important stories in American religious life over the past three decades.

If any of these questions pertain to you or to someone you know, A Nonjudgmental Guide to Interfaith Marriage: Making Interfaith Marriage Work, by Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben, Ph. (Xlibris Corporation, 2002) would be well worth your time to read.

The book’s chapters are organized chronologically according to each phase of a developing interfaith relationship–dating, wedding, marriage, children, and divorce.

I’m doing the best I can with the kids, but it’s so, so hard.” This was not what the students wanted to hear.

I thought of those truthful, anxious and sometimes hopeful discussions when I read Naomi Schaefer Riley’s well-researched and exceedingly well-written book, which is a great gift to clergy and an even greater challenge to them.

But know this: it will be the toughest thing you have ever done.

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