The perfect dating guide

Dating is, perhaps, the only activity you get a reputation for being good at by being bad at it.(Paradoxically, someone who was great at dating would not need to go on many first dates.) Fortunately for the rest of us, a new generation of Internet entrepreneurs has arisen to make finding love – or at least, finding someone to make out with – as easy as firing off a Snapchat.

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But what if you want to use a dating app mostly to augment your IRL dating life? (Until very recently, men had to opt out of being rated on the app; any dude with a Facebook profile was fair game.

Now, because of privacy concerns, Lulu has changed to an opt- system, wiping many reviews from the app.) Reviews on Lulu don’t take the form of Yelp’s exquisitely critical essays, though.

Whether on purpose or not, Hinge has eliminated one of the downsides of online dating, that sense that, in a bottomless ocean, there is always a better, prettier fish to be found. Your only pictures are your Facebook profile pictures.

Still, this reporter has not yet met anyone who has ever gone on a Hinge date. The first has to do with the social minefield that comes from a dating pool only made up of one’s friends-of-friends. Your only interests are the Facebook pages you Like.

Once you’ve swiped through them all, you’ve got to wait another 24 hours for the next batch. The second has to do with Hinge’s profile – or lack thereof.

(Like a pyramid scheme, you get better rewards – in this case, more matches per day – the more friends you have using the app.) Born out of technological necessity (in the early stages, most users only had a few friends-of-friends using the app) this limiting factor goes against the general trend of dating apps – and of the infinite stream of the web itself. Like Tinder, Hinge connects through Facebook, but it takes this connection a step further.

Hinge, which borrows most of its interface from Tinder, takes this one step further – you can see people with whom you share a mutual friend.

Another difference: Instead of an infinite stream of users, you only get a certain number per day. If someone is theoretically close to you in a network of friends and you haven’t met them yet, there might be a good reason why.

But what if you’re intimidated by the thought of all those strangers?

Then you might need Like many apps, Tinder verifies your identity through Facebook, and you can see how many friends you have in common with each of your prospective matches.

It means there isn’t a lot to distract you from your mission of swiping through as many suitors as possible, but it also means when you do get a match, attempts at conversation can prove unfruitful.

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